Should my husband quit his job?
shannon asked:
My husband and I both work for my dad. I only work part time and have only been there about a year. My husband has worked for my dad for 15 years. He has been treated quite badly at times, he will get promotions and then demoted within the next year. My dad is extra hard on him because he does not want anyone thinking he is giving him a “free ride”. Recently they had to let an employee of 35 years go due to drugs. Well that has caused a lot of drama around the office. Ex emloyee is telling dad lies and dad is calling hubby a liar. Hubby wants to find another job but I know if he quits my dad will say that he does not need me anymore either. DH does not have a high school diploma and makes pretty good money. On top of that he has a company phone, car maint., and a gas card. Is is worth putting up with the crap or should he go find another job and risk me losing my job and having to take a cut in pay?
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My husband and I both work for my dad. I only work part time and have only been there about a year. My husband has worked for my dad for 15 years. He has been treated quite badly at times, he will get promotions and then demoted within the next year. My dad is extra hard on him because he does not want anyone thinking he is giving him a “free ride”. Recently they had to let an employee of 35 years go due to drugs. Well that has caused a lot of drama around the office. Ex emloyee is telling dad lies and dad is calling hubby a liar. Hubby wants to find another job but I know if he quits my dad will say that he does not need me anymore either. DH does not have a high school diploma and makes pretty good money. On top of that he has a company phone, car maint., and a gas card. Is is worth putting up with the crap or should he go find another job and risk me losing my job and having to take a cut in pay?
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July 21st, 2009 at 9:07 pm
That really depends on if you are willing to look for another job or stand up to your father. If he is mistreating him he needs to do somthing about.
July 23rd, 2009 at 4:34 am
you will not be able to run your own lives until you are not under your father’s thumb. both of you need to find new jobs and own your own lives. good luck.
July 23rd, 2009 at 12:10 pm
First of all, do you and your husband have enough money saved up to be able to support you and him for the time that you are out of work? I would make the recommendation that your husband find work first, then quit the present job he has.
You may encounter other kinds of problems that come with unemployment issues that may be worse than the situation you are presently describing at the work site.
Also, are the problems you are describing worth fixing? You may want to set up a meeting with the owner and the employees to clear any gossip that the druggie may have dished out to put you and your husband at ease.
July 26th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
Working with family or very close friends is a conflict of interest. In any business there are office politics, and in a case like this they can get pretty nasty. If your husband is not happy being there then he should leave. No use doing something every day and not be happy doing it.
July 29th, 2009 at 1:07 am
I think your dad must be pretty mean if he’d fire his own daughter because he lost another employee. You should express your concern with your father. Show him how inconsiderate he has been and hope he listens. You might have to tell him he could lose the both of you if he doesn’t change his behavior.
July 30th, 2009 at 2:23 am
When dad dies (sad but it happens) what happens to the business????? Will be become yours or be sold?
I would put up with it if the business will be mine one day!
If not both of you sit down with your father and explain your feelings and decide after talking with him if he should look for a new job.
August 1st, 2009 at 2:55 pm
Stand up to your father and find a new job. Isn’t your happiness worth more to you than a company phone and gas card?
August 3rd, 2009 at 12:42 pm
What about night school for you and/or your husband. Once you are done you can look for a job in that trade. Thay way it wont look like you are running from your father but towards a goal and you can get out of the situation you are in.
August 3rd, 2009 at 9:45 pm
From personal experience I believe that for every door that closes another will open. It is no reason for your husband to put up with this abuse and if he was a regular employee and not the son-in-law you dad probably would’ve been sued. It doesn’t matter that your husband doesn’t have a diploma. He could get his GED and add that in with work exp. and find another job. I agree with you husband (quit) and I don’t get why your dad would fire you for your husband quitting. No disrespect to your dad but it seems as though he is a selfish man to treat his family that way. Your husband should maybe get his things in order before quitting like find another job first. Once, he has another job he should write your dad a resignation letter and explain to him exactly how he feels and quit.
August 6th, 2009 at 6:35 am
What is the total cost – family, relations, emotional – of not quitting?
Weigh that against striking out on another employment path and living with less frustration.